Wednesday, July 29, 2009


First and foremost, the most important update for today:


It's forecasted to be 101 here, which would be no big deal for those of you in the Southwest, but up here in the Pacific Northwest, it is like entering the 9th circle of hell, given that almost no one has air conditioning. (Last night on the local news, a helpful policeman suggested that people go to air conditioned places, "like churches," he said, which made me laugh out loud because, DUDE, SERIOUSLY, churches are about the least likely places to be air conditioned in this here normally moderate climate. DO YOU KNOW HOW MUCH IT COSTS TO DO THAT? Can you guess that I work in a non-air-conditioned church?)

(One caveat: we do have a/c at home. Which we thought had gone defunct yesterday, until we realized that the filter was clogged. So hopefully it will be back up today.)

So. It is hot. But this pales in comparison to the fact that I spent the last few days in Baby Central, and (insert drum roll here) - had a fantastic time. After a family wedding on Saturday, we headed with my brother and his wife and The Cutest Niece in the World to a beach house for a few days. Where, unbeknownst to us, we also ended up staying with my cousin and his wife and their 10-month old son; my sister-in-law's cousin and his wife and their 4-week-old son; and my sister-in-law's sister, her 3-month-old, and her 2-year old daughters.

Let's tally that up, shall we?

1 infertile woman +
1 4-week old baby boy +
1 3-month old baby girl +
1 9-month old baby girl +
1 10-month old baby boy +
1 2-year old girl+
1 relatively small beach house
1 very bitter and pissed-off infertile woman

Under normal circumstances over the past six months, this would have been the equation. So I don't really know why that wasn't the case. Everybody slept pretty well, which helps enormously. And maybe the sea air cleared my head. Because, apart from a few frustrating moments here and there, we had a blast. We hung out with babies all day long; it was like being thrown into a language immersion class when you've been unsuccessful trying to learn the language for years, so you expect to be all irritated by the experience, but you end up having a fantastic time. Who knew?

So we're heading into the next phase of the Baby Quest in a better frame of mind, for which I am very grateful. I have an appointment with my doctor in a few weeks, and we'll see what happens from there. Probably more on this later, but the most amazing development of the past few weeks is that my parents would like to give us the money for the Shared Risk program (buy-2-IVF-cycles, get one free). So we're probably heading in that direction.

But for now, I think my fingers are about to swell right off, so perhaps I should stop typing. There haven't been many days like this, but as the thermometer soars today, I have to admit: I'm not terribly unhappy, right now, that I'm not pregnant. Don't get me wrong; I would suffer through gladly, but I'll take the silver lining of Summer Infertility and drink up another margarita while I lay on the bed in my underwear.

Because, in case you had forgotten, it. is. HOT.


  1. Um yes, the heat is WICKED here right now! Like you I have A/C at home, thank goodness. Please enjoy the margarita and not being too terribly hot or swollen. ;)

    I am very glad that your trip was a fun one, and you enjoyed the babies. Great news on Shared Risk! That is AMAZING!! What a gift.

    Enjoy (or survive) the heat!

  2. THANK YOU for the comment! I will send Abby a note, too, but as I suspected, you've shown me that others will write a much more eloquent letter than I ever could.

    I'm so happy to hear about your wonderful trip and the beginnings of your future plans. As hard as it is for me, I do generally enjoy being around my niece and nephew, and I'm sad they've moved away (up to your neck of the woods apparently, so I guess they're quite hot right now).

    I do find it hard to believe (and kind of funny) that you're having much hotter weather than we are down here in the Sacramento Valley. I'm really sorry about that!

  3. I'm sorry about your heat. As someone who lives in the desert Southwest, I can relate, though as you correctly state, we are used to it here and equipped with A/C to deal with it. (Phoenix had its 33rd consecutive day of 100+ temps yesterday, and 14 of those days have been 110+.)

    I'm glad you enjoyed your stay at "Baby Central," as unexpected as that was.

    Oh, and your letter to Dear Abby ROCKED! Very eloquent and well-stated.

  4. my sister was just bemoaning the heat in portland- 106 yesterday. and when i suggested she go to a friend's place with ac she scoffed. "No one has ac here, for the ONE week of the year it might be needed." we were visiting her once during that one week. kev's first exposure to the northwest. he hates heat. everyone kept saying "It's NEVER like this." over 90 on the coast when we were there. freakin' nuts. anyhow... i feel for ya and her and yup... great reason not to be pregnant- enjoy that rita and underwear, etc.

    SO glad the vacation equation worked out differently.

    and WOW on your parents' offer to pay.


    blessings on next steps.

    i continue to pray.

  5. Oh, man -- the heat sounds horrible. Every once in a while it gets over 100 in San Francisco, and much the same thing occurs. No a/c anywhere.

    So happy to hear that you're in a good headspace, and looking ahead to next steps!

  6. Ugh, heat is bad. Luckily for me we are having a cold wave. At least relatively cool for summer in the south.

  7. many of my friends in PNW are scrambling to find and purchase A/C for this summer... i can't imagine! i hope you find cool places to chill out in!!

  8. That heat sounds horrible! Hope you enjoyed the margarita. Hope the hot streak breaks and you get some relief.

  9. Mmmm, margaritas, how I love them! I'm so glad your trip was wonderful! I'm so glad you have folks that support you in your IF struggle, and who want to be a part of things. It's so good to hear you're feeling good!

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