tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9082238126439604111.post6577945783892161964..comments2023-10-31T05:51:43.959-07:00Comments on baby, interrupted: the best laid plansbabyinterruptedhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09691284568281459525noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9082238126439604111.post-39323468394049996492010-06-04T17:10:26.506-07:002010-06-04T17:10:26.506-07:00You give me a tiny glimmer of hope. I will be 31 ...You give me a tiny glimmer of hope. I will be 31 this year and still have not met the man of my dreams. My plan was to be married around 24, have babies at age 28, 31, and perhaps 34. Sadly, none of that has happened. Hopefully soon...<br /><br />Good luck with everything!<br />DawnDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11032244123156888963noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9082238126439604111.post-28487123558845906012010-06-01T20:16:29.675-07:002010-06-01T20:16:29.675-07:00I'm following the exact same path as you are. ...I'm following the exact same path as you are. We also aren't finding out the gender and I think it's mostly because I don't want to be able to plan everything. I'm living it day by day and I bet we enjoy our pregnancies a lot more in the long run.Amberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03777400850337711004noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9082238126439604111.post-84296955661398719662010-06-01T19:58:51.421-07:002010-06-01T19:58:51.421-07:00I love this post. Isn't it amazing how much h...I love this post. Isn't it amazing how much hope we can put in our own plans? I've been pondering lately how much of my sadness is from the fact that I don't have a child, and how much is from the fact that our infertility has taken my life far off of the course that I had planned. I think your birth plan sounds right on.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9082238126439604111.post-30162440251996195632010-06-01T17:33:53.716-07:002010-06-01T17:33:53.716-07:00I struggle with the whole planning bug too...I alw...I struggle with the whole planning bug too...I always want to plan & as you said that doesn't always work out. I think for me planning things about the birth are about taking back some of the control I lost during infertility, but I suppose as much as I plan that can all go out the window, no guarantees right?!rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06480554666969330506noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9082238126439604111.post-79568606292041719182010-06-01T16:26:44.003-07:002010-06-01T16:26:44.003-07:00I love your outlook here - take it one day at a ti...I love your outlook here - take it one day at a time. Like you, I am an avid planner. But 2 years ago, after several years of IF and IVF, my firstborn was stillborn at 37.5 weeks for no apparent reason. That took ALL my planning instincts away concerning reproduction, birth, etc. Now I am thankfully pregnant with twins (30 weeks) but unable to plan the nursery, the birthplan (what's that? just give me LIVING babies) or anytime after my scheduled c-section on July 12th. I think some women overrate the 'vaginal birth' experience when the goal is really just to give birth to a healthy, live child, no matter the means. I'm very happy for you - being that you're pregnant and that you can 'let go' at this point and try to enjoy your pregnancy. Best of luck to you!Kara's Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07318794767415969151noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9082238126439604111.post-77864311794546197162010-06-01T16:00:14.153-07:002010-06-01T16:00:14.153-07:00Wow, I could have written this post. I know exact...Wow, I could have written this post. I know exactly what you mean. My "life plan" isn't quite as delayed as yours, but it is a few years off. And my birth plan is pretty much exactly the same as yours (having twins I think helps me realize that I'm not likely to get what I want). But yes, my only requirements are that no one else is there but my husband (and hospital staff) and I end up with two healthy babies. Of course I have preferences, but I'm totally ready for the emergency c-section and anything in between. Well, maybe not really ready for it, but I won't be upset if it happens. I'm up for anything, and I just can't wait to meet my babies. So, as a fellow planner and list-maker, I think this plan is excellent!sunflowerchildehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15209334933886664383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9082238126439604111.post-13229242992432610452010-06-01T15:57:13.620-07:002010-06-01T15:57:13.620-07:00I've also reached the "time to start thin...I've also reached the "time to start thinking about this whole birth thing" stage. So far, it's been a lot of getting informed with no real plans for the actual event. I think it's find to plan as little or as much as you want, as long as you realize (as you clearly do) that the baby will be calling on the shots on its birthday. How are you feeling these days?finchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13517411348405651768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9082238126439604111.post-77356250404695244732010-06-01T13:53:39.214-07:002010-06-01T13:53:39.214-07:00I went through infertility as well. When I finally...I went through infertility as well. When I finally did get pregnant through IVF, my plan was also "go to hospital. Have baby". It worked for me. I say good plan!Deehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04851454396583151349noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9082238126439604111.post-32991054486567552272010-06-01T13:51:09.340-07:002010-06-01T13:51:09.340-07:00This post really resonated with me and think that ...This post really resonated with me and think that you are very wise to plan no further. Just having the baby should be enough, right?irrationalexuberancehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05772420700972282324noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9082238126439604111.post-70363528314449812702010-06-01T13:35:42.059-07:002010-06-01T13:35:42.059-07:00i know that it will all go just as its supposed to...i know that it will all go just as its supposed to. im so happy for you :)bibchttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13696528943928321710noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9082238126439604111.post-15432645782228091212010-06-01T13:20:27.572-07:002010-06-01T13:20:27.572-07:00I think your plan to just go to the hospital and h...I think your plan to just go to the hospital and have a baby is a good one. When I had my baby 10 years ago, all of my emotional time and energy and planning had gone into my adoption plan, so my birth plan was as vague as yours. I didn't want an epidural, but wasn't completely opposed. I didn't want a c-section, but knew it might have to happen. I didn't want an episiotomy, but if push came to shove, so be it. I have no disappointments regarding the birth, and felt pretty lucky that it was vaginal without an epidural or episiotomy! <br /><br />I think letting things happen is best, but also let people know what you want, even though you'll be open to change.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9082238126439604111.post-13287635668429754632010-06-01T12:36:30.786-07:002010-06-01T12:36:30.786-07:00You are very wise, in my estimation. I'm also...You are very wise, in my estimation. I'm also a planner, and had plans thrown out the window several times, in several ways. With this last baby, our plan was "come home with baby." Thankfully, that worked out.<br /><br />(Sarah sent me over here, I hope it's ok).esperanzahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12508921986071164221noreply@blogger.com