tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9082238126439604111.post5195717390691762933..comments2023-10-31T05:51:43.959-07:00Comments on baby, interrupted: plugging alongbabyinterruptedhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09691284568281459525noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9082238126439604111.post-19047880676247299492012-09-10T11:48:33.702-07:002012-09-10T11:48:33.702-07:00Your concern about this cycle resonates with me--I...Your concern about this cycle resonates with me--I'm struggling a little with this myself with this current pregnancy. I can't tell if it has to do with 1)the fact that it's my second pregnancy,and there's a bit of been-there-done-that in the mix; 2)the fact that I am so busy wrangling my adorable, but boundlessly energetic toddler that there is no time for [literal] navel-gazing like there was when I was pregnant with him; or perhaps, 3)the fact that this pregnancy was a total surprise and still feels quite unreal, now 18 weeks in. So, all that to say and echo what everyone else has said--I think it's normal to have these feelings, and I think it's always more complex than we may have anticipated at the outset. I read this post week before last, and it was as if it was written just for me at the exact moment I needed it: http://www.hobomama.com/2012/08/on-having-two-kids-not-playing-fair.html<br /><br />I hope you get the green light on the 13th! Thinking of you and hoping for very, very good things. :)Trinityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12133740026125341736noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9082238126439604111.post-30098742324050736682012-09-08T20:14:50.511-07:002012-09-08T20:14:50.511-07:00Okay, I am so glad you are being honest about this...Okay, I am so glad you are being honest about this because I felt exactly that way until the DAY I DELIVERED my son! Seriously...I thought my life was so perfect with my twin girls, the ones I had "tried" so hard for...and had spent so much money to get here. Then this little guy was a holy-crap-we-can-really-get-pregnant-that-way(?!) pregnancy, and I thought there was no way I could possibly feel the same love for him as I felt for my girls. Um, wrong. The second I saw him, held him, nursed him...he was mine. He was equal. I think the best way to look at it is like, picture the daughter you have as a candle with a bright burning flame....when you add another candle to the mix, you aren't taking anything away from that flame, you are simply sharing the flame...both flames burning just as brightly as the one did on it's own. I know it is hard to imagine, but it is really really true. No love was removed from my girls...the flame burns as brightly as ever for them...but the flame for my little man burns just as brightly as the flame for the girls...BIZARRE! But true. I love it. I love him. And I had those exact same feelings you are having literally until I had him. Totally normal!!!Miss Meganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05439601475933806357noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9082238126439604111.post-80643285194444809222012-09-06T19:41:02.533-07:002012-09-06T19:41:02.533-07:00Someone who I think is pretty wise told me that in...Someone who I think is pretty wise told me that in the elevator on the way to the delivery of his second child, he broke down crying because he could not imagine loving a second child as much. And then he said all of those fears went away the moment he saw her. I believe that our hearts expand for each child we have. But hey, I've only got one at this point, so I'm nervous about the same thing.<br /><br />Wishing you tons of luck.irrationalexuberancehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05772420700972282324noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9082238126439604111.post-27647843242461558592012-09-05T18:41:38.712-07:002012-09-05T18:41:38.712-07:00I feel the same way sometimes. Just tonight, I...I feel the same way sometimes. Just tonight, I'm in my 2ww and not supposed to lift more than 10 lbs (which my 19 month daughter weighs much more than!) and she wanted only mama to put her to bed. so i lifted her and did it. and i said, i have to be mom to this one first, rather than for the maybe baby #2. it is hard to imagine loving another as much as i love my daughter. but then again, it was hard to imagine loving her as much as i do, before she was here. i guess love is not finite, and there is always enough to go around. Piehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07331859341593997811noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9082238126439604111.post-9789196415884395902012-09-05T13:06:29.426-07:002012-09-05T13:06:29.426-07:00Don't worry...I felt the same way with our 2nd...Don't worry...I felt the same way with our 2nd. And even more so because we were doing embryo adoption with the 2nd after the first being biological. I was so worried I would love this 2nd baby less for sooo many reasons. But now...21 months after she was born...don't worry...you will love them both fiercley...but differently...because they are different people. I sometimes feel guilty because I feel like I might love the 2nd one more. She is the baby...she was this awesome gift to us....she is a much needier baby than our son was so she "needs' me more...but...I know that is just this particular time in her life...I can honestly say that I love them both as "MUCH"...just in totally different ways. Don't worry mama...you will do just fine.<br />kdkdactylhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02123983421783902463noreply@blogger.com