tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9082238126439604111.post3868240872070334860..comments2023-10-31T05:51:43.959-07:00Comments on baby, interrupted: don't ask, do tellbabyinterruptedhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09691284568281459525noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9082238126439604111.post-90270674860880836112009-04-20T13:51:00.000-07:002009-04-20T13:51:00.000-07:00The internets are here for you. I'm so sorry you'r...The internets are here for you. I'm so sorry you're not getting the support you need IRL -- that just sucks. It's so much to process/bear alone (either individually or as a couple).<br /><br />(And I am totally the same at the hairdresser -- it's my time to read celebrity gossip magazines, dammit!)Barefoothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17514231523278098569noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9082238126439604111.post-60028402718388063212009-04-19T12:27:00.000-07:002009-04-19T12:27:00.000-07:00Here to listen and listen and listen, for as long ...Here to listen and listen and listen, for as long as you need... because I have had the same experience. People who you think will support you the most, forget, or offer you that initial support but think they've done their bit. <br /><br />The fact you are suffering is hard, and you want everyone to acknowledge it - that is normal!nhhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08579146100268312887noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9082238126439604111.post-76266552744069715662009-04-19T10:05:00.000-07:002009-04-19T10:05:00.000-07:00I blogged a few months ago about the time, right a...I blogged a few months ago about the time, right after my first miscarriage, that I totally freaked out an overly-chatty esthetician during a facial by mentioning my miscarriage in response to her non-stop questioning. (It's actually kind of fun to shock people with the word "miscarriage," by the way, in case you do feel like telling an unpleasant stranger).<br /><br />Contrast that with the best spa I've ever been to, where part of the pre-facial paperwork involved a questionnaire about your preferences: how firm do you like the massage, what is your pain tolerance, how much are you seeking to be pampered, and how much do you like to chat during the facial.<br /><br />If only every spa (and every other industry) asked that question ahead of time.Baby Smiling In Back Seathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06483533946303787478noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9082238126439604111.post-4339704493664368272009-04-19T08:47:00.000-07:002009-04-19T08:47:00.000-07:00Wow, I can totally relate. I had my second miscarr...Wow, I can totally relate. I had my second miscarriage a little over a month ago and hardly anyone seems to care anymore. I don't want to talk about it and yet I want so badly for someone to acknowledge the pain that doesn't go away quickly, even if we are in the midst of trying again (on our 5th injection cycle). I just never dreamed I would be here and yet, here I am. Anyway, there are many out there who can at least tell you that what you are feeling/thinking is SO normal.Denahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18183755262291267665noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9082238126439604111.post-85109301309412372622009-04-19T07:30:00.000-07:002009-04-19T07:30:00.000-07:00I too am glad to listen and understand. After my l...I too am glad to listen and understand. After my loss, I felt like Hester with her scarlet letter...except mine was written with invisible ink. It was a long time before I could be in public without wanting to shout "I'm suffering and how dare you all just go on with life like it's okay!" I found the mall to be the most trying place. It does get easier, but a loss changes you. Keep writing, we here in cbyerspace will be listening.Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05466722859869773647noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9082238126439604111.post-73137327759782842302009-04-18T19:47:00.000-07:002009-04-18T19:47:00.000-07:00I will gladly be your grocery store clerk or your ...I will gladly be your grocery store clerk or your hair dresser - tell us all about it, in as much detail as you want. We'll listen and support you and understand because we've been there, too, and it hurts and sucks so bad but no one seems to care or understand. We understand. I am so, so sorry for you. I wish I could do more for you to make you feel better. Hugs - please know there are people who understand and shed tears for you even if you do not know us IRL. Hugs and more hugs.Rileyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16877372994289952731noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9082238126439604111.post-28418595130784125622009-04-18T17:10:00.000-07:002009-04-18T17:10:00.000-07:00I'm so sorry for what you are going through. It w...I'm so sorry for what you are going through. It was and is real, and I'm sorry your friends aren't reaching through in a more assertive way to connect with you. I'm here in tears reading your post, and wishing I could be there at the game to tell that guy to STFU and just give you a million hugs, and listen to you. This sentence, especially, sums up so many IF situations: "How dare they do as I ask?" <br /><br />There aren't any words I can offer, except to say that like the commentor above, we are here to listen and cry with you and cheer you on if you need it. Even if you tell us not to, we will.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9082238126439604111.post-10465749398080135732009-04-18T15:33:00.000-07:002009-04-18T15:33:00.000-07:00We're hear to listen to you! I'm so sorry for what...We're hear to listen to you! I'm so sorry for what you're going through right now... Too bad you couldn't 'accidentally' spill your drink at the guy at the game. But we, in cyber-space, are here to listen...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com