tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9082238126439604111.post3673354319975737952..comments2023-10-31T05:51:43.959-07:00Comments on baby, interrupted: I am...babyinterruptedhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09691284568281459525noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9082238126439604111.post-34943133708645553372010-03-02T19:01:34.397-08:002010-03-02T19:01:34.397-08:00Just curious.. you mentioned that it annoys you wh...Just curious.. you mentioned that it annoys you when women who are pregnant refer to themselves as infertile... I had a baby 2 years ago and failed to get pregnant with frozen embryos... thus leaving me in a similar, though different predicament... Wanting a child but unable to do it without fertility treatments... <br />I'm curious about your thoughts because I'm in an infertility support group (though I thought I'd NEVEr have to think of the "I" word again)to deal with this and hopefully support other women as well... Having a baby does not cure infertility... I'm somewhere inbetween... I understand the frustration with not having a child yet, I was there, but I think if someone was struggling with infertiltiy and explained why, I would welcome them and support them... its tough enough to be infertile, lets not turn on ourselves.St. Joseph's Youth Ministryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10368206913866845141noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9082238126439604111.post-37117627666783835802010-03-02T12:41:34.489-08:002010-03-02T12:41:34.489-08:00Hi! I just came across your blog today. I wanted...Hi! I just came across your blog today. I wanted to first congratulate you on your pregnancy! What a long journey you have been on. You will be in my prayers...take care.Thttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17573016353068602885noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9082238126439604111.post-34134175027737885932010-03-01T13:00:49.407-08:002010-03-01T13:00:49.407-08:00This is a great post. I'm at about the same s...This is a great post. I'm at about the same stage as you, I think - about 5 weeks pregnant after IVF. On Friday one of my friends announced her pregnancy via e-mail, and I burst into tears. It was the big ugly sobs, too, not just a few tears at the corners of my eyes. This came as a surprise to me - I had hoped my days of crying at pregnancy announcements were finally over.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9082238126439604111.post-63526191337836330162010-02-28T16:27:45.670-08:002010-02-28T16:27:45.670-08:00I fit into both categories - I was diagnosed with ...I fit into both categories - I was diagnosed with depression when I was 19. Even though it's been controlled with medication and self-awareness I still struggle with it from time to time. It is interesting, like you say, that the diagnosis of depression is such a huge self-identity thing. It is not something that you have, it is something that you are. But now, 8 years later, the labels don't fit anymore. On one hand it's a part of my past, not a part of my daily life, but on the other hand it's not something that I will ever NOT deal with, it will always be a part of me. It's just controlled, not active. I think that's how it's going to be with infertility too. I'll never not be infertile - I'll never have that choice to just get pregnant when I want to. Even when we are done having kids, when we have "moved on", I'll always carry this piece around with me. I think the language will change, later.Nataliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16003334714597731355noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9082238126439604111.post-85933786922878466962010-02-25T17:13:02.312-08:002010-02-25T17:13:02.312-08:00Wow, very insightful post! I am definitely feeling...Wow, very insightful post! I am definitely feeling the whole pregnancy does not cancel out infertility right now. I worry so much about what could go wrong & then all we've already gone through...and as you said the IF has become such a part of who we are it's difficult to let go of, I have very mixed feelings right now. Glad to hear I'm not the only one, thank you for this post!rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06480554666969330506noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9082238126439604111.post-27049568643964318412010-02-25T09:51:42.677-08:002010-02-25T09:51:42.677-08:00Wonderful post. I love the insight you always brin...Wonderful post. I love the insight you always bring. Still pumped for you guys!!!!Mackeyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00192640460278438040noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9082238126439604111.post-15681449507370546622010-02-25T08:33:52.342-08:002010-02-25T08:33:52.342-08:00Interesting point! You've given me lots to thi...Interesting point! You've given me lots to think about (as usual)!Barefoothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17514231523278098569noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9082238126439604111.post-60074779469388813112010-02-24T19:00:24.544-08:002010-02-24T19:00:24.544-08:00I TOTALLY understand! When I was pregnant, I stil...I TOTALLY understand! When I was pregnant, I still felt like an infertile woman. I don't think the pain ever leaves, and therefore neither does the label. Good luck, hun!Faithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03064955747540959696noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9082238126439604111.post-78453862807719768672010-02-24T18:54:38.246-08:002010-02-24T18:54:38.246-08:00What an incredible post. I have had all of these ...What an incredible post. I have had all of these feelings a million times during this pregnancy and I've never been able to find a way to put it into words. You did it perfectly. Thanks for sharing!Amberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03777400850337711004noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9082238126439604111.post-56208987602153838842010-02-24T17:05:31.557-08:002010-02-24T17:05:31.557-08:00It's a very strange place to be, isn't it?...It's a very strange place to be, isn't it? I once felt the jealousy of infertility when I received an announcement to a friend's baby shower... the day before my own baby shower. Infertility just doesn't go away... it does become a part of you. I'm hoping someday I'll be able to put it behind me but I think it will be awhile.Carriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13721581459131697651noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9082238126439604111.post-28839553180743807952010-02-24T15:54:30.125-08:002010-02-24T15:54:30.125-08:00I'm right there with you. Infertility is so de...I'm right there with you. Infertility is so deeply embedded in my self-perception that I just can not let it go. I have no real reason to believe that this pregnancy won't continue and be healthy, but I still worry about it every single day. And if it does go wrong? Or if I want a second child? I go straight back to the clinic, straight back to the meds, the stress, the IVF. So it seems natural to still feel infertile, despite the obvious contradiction. I think I'll be in that place in between for a while still.finchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13517411348405651768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9082238126439604111.post-10145777411879804152010-02-24T12:08:55.130-08:002010-02-24T12:08:55.130-08:00'I am pregnant, does not cancel out, I am infe...'I am pregnant, does not cancel out, I am infertile'.... Wow. I can only imagine how true that is. I know it must seem awkward, but I'm so incredibly happy that you are in this place. <br /><br />GREAT post.Melissa Ghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04150534738341942742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9082238126439604111.post-21136812083190162142010-02-24T12:04:41.478-08:002010-02-24T12:04:41.478-08:00This is such an interesting, insightful post! My ...This is such an interesting, insightful post! My husband suffers from chonric, severe depression. When all is well with the meds, life is fairly "normal." But, it's scary how fast our life gets turned upside down when the meds go awry!<br /><br />Anyway, you make the pooint that people often say that "I am depressed" versus "I have depression." Honestly, I'd prefer to here people say "I have depression" more often so it starts to be seen as a disease just like diabetes, for example. I use that example, because I think there are many similarities.<br /><br />My thoughts on infertility aren't much different, actually. If we used the phrase "I have infertility" would people start to view it as the all encompassing issue that it is? <br /><br />But, you're right that as hard as it is to initially accept the phrase, we start to identify with the "I am infertile" phrase almost like a badge of honor. And, I think that's why women who do successfully get pregnant still use the phrase...we may have been able to conceive by whatever measures were necessary, but our path was not the same as the lucky ones that get pregnant at the drop of a hat. It does deserve distinction, in my opinion.<br /><br />Thanks for your insight! I truly enjoyed reading and thinking about this post!Linhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17203780431443748216noreply@blogger.com